Are You Feeling Unseen And Disconnected In Your  Relationship?

As resentment builds between partners, it can be tough to escape the cycle of conflict as a couple. One or both of you may feel unvalidated and misunderstood in the partnership, perpetuating a sense of disconnection.  This has likely resulted in feelings of anger, irritability, and distress,  continually adding to unhealthy, unattuned communication patterns.  

Maybe the tension has been building for years; a recent stressor has thrown a wrench in the relationship dynamic. Either way, you’re probably anxious and worried, wondering if you and your partner can ever return to a  place where you feel loved and supported by one another.  

At Lumin, we are experts in therapy for couples in marriages and long-term relationships. Acting as a neutral yet supportive force on your journey as a  couple, we will use counseling to identify core wounds in the relationship and develop tools for healing them. Using proven therapy methods, we will help you restore a sense of closeness, intimacy, and mutual validation in your relationship.

Conflict, Gridlock, And Stagnancy Are Normal  Components Of Intimate Relationships

Our clients are smart, aware, and high-achieving individuals who often juggle many responsibilities—demanding jobs, parenting, and a hunger for self-fulfillment, to name a few. The balancing act can stress a relationship, though many couples have difficulty admitting they need help. Instead of addressing issues head-on, it’s common for partners to avoid, grow distant,  and distract themselves from one another. This can become particularly challenging as individual mental health concerns and addiction issues emerge.  

The Covid-19 pandemic has put immense pressure on some of our closest relationships. Many couples have struggled throughout this time to navigate loss, stress, and transition together. As a result, negative cycles of interaction have formed that cause barriers to healthy and productive communication. If you’re frustrated and wondering why your marriage or relationship feels strained, know you are not alone.  

Moreover, for couples in straight relationships, cultural conditioning, and other factors have influenced the way that men and women express their emotions—often at odds with one another. No matter who we are or how we identify, though, we all have to make a negotiation when we enter into a  relationship with another individual who has their own needs, desires, and wounds.  

Our therapists will normalize your experience to make you feel seen, heard, and validated. As you practice proactive tools with an objective professional, you can begin healing the relationship and overcoming the hurdles you face—together. 

At Lumin Center, Therapy Is Customized To Help You Reconnect As A Couple

So often, when we’re stuck in an unhealthy relationship dynamic, there is no neutral space we can turn to create room for tough conversations, practice skills in real time, and feel safe. Therapy sets the stage for you to calmly and creatively explore your patterns as a couple as you learn to listen to and engage with one another meaningfully.  

Our goal is to help you understand the why behind the struggles you face in the relationship so that you can build solutions together. Your partnership will thrive as both of you practice validating, reconnecting with, and honoring one another.

Our Approach

While the therapists on our team use various proven, effective methods to help clients deepen intimacy and grow together, we generally take a 

solution-oriented approach that offers couples concrete tools and shared activities that will actively strengthen their bond. Our clients respond well to skills-based work, so take-home “assignments” and workbooks may be incorporated into the therapeutic process.  

We also heavily rely on elements of The Gottman Method for Couples  Therapy in counseling. This structured approach provides a framework for couples to understand their core conflicts and take steps toward more loving, supportive communication. The Gottman Method promotes a  sense of movement—rather than stagnancy—in the relationship, ultimately enhancing intimacy, respect, and affection.  

Every marriage/long-term relationship has its dark and stormy season, but counseling can be the key to transforming discord into resilience. We are confident that if you’re experiencing disconnection as a couple, our therapeutic approach can help you rise above any challenge and come through the other side stronger than ever. 

Still Unsure If Couples Therapy Is Right For You?

We’re not even sure if we want to stay together.

If you’re considering a breakup or divorce, counseling is a meaningful way for both of you to come together and explore your options. We understand that deciding this can be very difficult. Our ultimate goal is to equip both of you with the emotional and communication skills needed to move forward respectfully and collaboratively. 

I’m worried that my partner will become upset with me because of what is said in our therapy sessions—Willn’t counseling make things worse?

An essential aspect of couples therapy is acknowledging that conversations will be honest and respectful and an opportunity to practice active listening skills. Your therapist can teach skills that will deepen the understanding between the two of you, and ample time will be devoted to ensuring that both of you feel emotionally safe in your sessions.

What if my partner doesn’t agree to come to therapy anymore? 

At the beginning of the therapeutic process, your counselor will make sure to address concerns and expectations. They will discuss this potential scenario with you and work with you to figure out an agreement on how to approach this if it happens. 

While we want to do our best to ensure that both of you are committed to the process, we also want to provide you with the healthiest way forward if one or both of you decide to stop therapy. 

Learn To Rise Above The Challenges—Together 

Our therapists are hand-selected marriage and relationship specialists who tailor the counseling process to the needs of each couple. To find out more about how couples therapy can help you and your partner overcome challenges, contact us at 864-430-0911 or email us at Lumin@Lumincenter.com.

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